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Parent-teacher conferences are not mere “information briefings”; they are a structured process to build trust and generate positive energy for the student. This article proposes a 60-minute standard—long enough to listen deeply yet short enough to protect other duties—and introduces the EMPATHIC framework: Evidence-ready Preparation; Meet with Respect & Curiosity; Probe with 5W1H (especially “Why”); Allocate Half to Listening; Team-design Options; Handshake & Handoff; Inspect & Intervene; and Coherence & Citations.

Begin with preparation: consolidate grades, quiz accuracy, submissions, attendance, and behavioral observations. Use generative AI to simulate Plan A/B/C and prepare success evidence and expert commentary—especially when current metrics look weak. Open the meeting with gratitude and clarity of purpose. Spend the first half listening with genuine curiosity, drilling from facts to interpretations, emotions, and the parent’s underlying wishes.

Then co-design strategies. If your prepared plan fits, present it. If not, openly discard and rebuild together. Finalize a one-page agreement that specifies who does what by when across home, school, and the student, including measurable KPIs (e.g., study minutes, submission rates, short-test averages). Follow up by phone the next day and after one week (optionally after one month), share KPI updates, and invite the parent to request another meeting if needed. Record not only conclusions but the reasoning and evidence so any staff member can retrieve coherent context later.

Avoiding generative AI is now a risk. Use it live when discussions stall to model curiosity and practical problem solving. Two example prompts are provided to simulate parent questions and to build motivation/trajectory strategies under uncertainty. Finally, a reminder: trust is co-created. The “quiz” answer—conferences are built together with parents—captures the spirit of this method.

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Parent-teacher conferences are created with parents and < >.
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Table of Contents

• A 60-minute conference is essential
• The EMPATHIC Framework
  • E — Evidence-ready Preparation
  • M — Meet with Respect & Curiosity
  • P — Probe with 5W1H
  • A — Allocate Half to Listening
  • T — Team-design Options
  • H — Handshake & Handoff
  • I — Inspect & Intervene
  • C — Coherence & Citations

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A 60-minute conference is essential

From today, let’s move to conferences. In my department, one conference is, in principle, 60 minutes. If a subordinate comes back in 30 minutes, I caution them; conversely, two hours is also not acceptable.
The core is trust building: it cannot be done in 30 minutes, and spending two hours harms other administrative work.
In actual schools, 15 or 30 minutes seems common. Does that even make sense? According to OECD’s 2024 TALIS, while Japanese primary and lower secondary teachers’ long working hours are improving, they are still among the longest globally.
It says elementary teachers teach 22.7 hours (plus 8 hours prep + 4 hours grading) per week. In our cram school, an instructor teaches about 16 hours on average weekly, so yes, that’s long. But we don’t spend that much time preparing; most spend less than 1–2 hours weekly. We do three hours of lesson training each week, including surprise mock lessons—so self-improvement time is certainly long.
Still, can’t we somehow reduce the 8 hours of prep and 4 hours of grading?

First, confirm the purpose of the conference: building a trust relationship. Concretely: (1) the parent leaves smiling, feeling the teacher is trustworthy; (2) as a result, positive energy is generated for the child.
Many think conferences are mainly for “telling,” but that is only a tiny part and must not be the whole.
I created a framework for this—practiced by me and my team. Those who followed it continued to produce results.

The EMPATHIC Framework

E — Evidence-ready Preparation
Before the conference, consolidate the student’s data: grade trends, quiz accuracy, submissions, tardies/absences, behavioral observations. Use generative AI to simulate “Plan A/B/C” (explained later). If scores are low, prepare one-page materials with anonymized turnaround cases or expert commentary for parents. The point is to have at least one plan (ideally three) ready.

M — Meet with Respect & Curiosity
Smile, make eye contact, and sit slightly angled. In the first 30 seconds, use gratitude → purpose-sharing → a reassuring phrase.
Example: “Today, let’s go in this order: confirm the current situation, hear your concerns, and decide a plan together.”

P — Probe with 5W1H (especially Why)
Keep listening with curiosity. Ask in this order: facts → interpretation → emotions → the parent’s wishes. Rephrase “Why” to avoid sounding accusatory.
Examples: “What was the scene like then?” “Why do you think you felt that way?” “What did he say at the time?” “Where did he say that?” “How is he studying now?” “Why does he say he wants to be a nurse?” “And why is that?”
Frankly, you need around five “whys” to reach someone’s true feelings. It’s okay if they feel you’re a bit persistent: “I know I’m pressing, but one more—why do you think he says that?”

A — Allocate Half to Listening
In a 60-minute slot, secure the first 30 minutes for the parent’s speech. Don’t interrupt; keep curious. Half of a conference is performance: laugh with energy at light parts; grapple seriously with hard parts (that part isn’t acting). Let parents fully vent for 30 minutes. Of course, bring a notepad. Just before 30 minutes, summarize and confirm: “My understanding is (1)…, (2)…, (3)…—is that right?”
If you can’t secure 60 minutes, ask parents to write five questions in advance. Reduce probing time; the key lies in the next step—Team-design Options.

T — Team-design Options (co-design strategies)
If your prepared plan fits, present it: “Here’s what I’m thinking—what do you think?”
If it’s off, co-create. Clarify gaps and adjust, or even discard from scratch: “Actually, I made a plan for him/her, but after hearing you, this isn’t right. I’ll toss it, haha. Let’s think together.” If it’s a school-choice meeting, also draft an action plan and study timeline.

H — Handshake & Handoff (agreement → on paper)
Summarize who does what by when on one page. Separate Home/School/Student tasks. Include sample phrases for home support and specific study menus. Add numeric KPIs like study time. Hand the paper to the parent (and keep a copy yourself).

I — Inspect & Intervene (follow-up to check & tweak)
Call the next day and one week later to ask how things are going. Share KPIs (home study minutes, homework submission rate, recent short-test averages). Ideally, follow up next day (“What did your child say yesterday?”) and after one week + one month (“How is it since?”). No need to continue beyond that; there are many students and operations must run. Say: “If anything comes up, we can meet anytime—please contact us.”

C — Coherence & Citations (consistency & evidence)
Create a storage place (cloud or paper) for the agreement, and standardize the format if sharing internally. Schools should absolutely share. Record not just conclusions, but why you reached them—with data. Even in cram schools: would any sales org say, “We don’t know because the person in charge is out”? The ideal is a call center: no matter who answers, they can retrieve essential info.

Not using generative AI is a risk

I’d like to write more details, but I’ll provide them once I go independent—please follow me for that.
As for simulating Plan A/B/C under “E,” here are two prompts. Iterate until satisfied, just like Google’s TEREI “I” for iteration.

1. Prompt:
   “You are a mother in your 40s with a 9th-grade son. He works hard but may not quite reach his first-choice school. What three questions would you ask the teacher? For each question, what are three answers the teacher (me) should give?”
2. Prompt:
   “You are an expert in sustaining long-term student motivation and career support. For the parent question below, follow the Cognitive Verification Rules to prepare accurate, multifaceted answers.
   Parent’s Question: ‘My child lacks goals and has low motivation. We’re vaguely anxious about the future—what should we do?’
   Cognitive Verification Rules:
   (1) Generate three follow-up questions the teacher should confirm with the parent.
   (2) For each, describe expected response patterns (affirmative, negative, insufficient info).
   (3) If all are ‘insufficient info,’ propose three alternative strategies: an Exploration Approach, Stepwise Goal-setting Approach, and Environmental Motivation Approach.”

Have you attended Professor Shichiri’s free seminar? If not, you definitely should. Bring your tablet into the conference. When things get tough and no one knows what to do, open ChatGPT and ask—parents will feel, “Wow, the teacher really uses this well,” which builds trust. As I said before, not using generative AI is already a risk. My second prompt might take practice, but you can get close even in a free trial.

Recently, at my former employer’s seminar (a listed company with about 3,200 employees in total), IT reported only 38% use Microsoft Copilot—astonishingly low. It’s a laid-back company, which I loved, but even at a listed company it’s like that.
Please take Mr. Shichiri’s seminar to master generative AI.

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I’ll also repost my article on prompt techniques.

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The answer to the QUIZ is together. Listen well and co-create.

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